You can improve your experience of ANYONE by doing inner work.
But you cannot get the exact experience you want from just ANYONE, no matter how much inner work you do.
The exact experience you want is highly specialized and will require a highly specialized individual. Not one that's "higher value" or "better" by some arbitrary metrics, but one that's specific and tailored to you.
It's important to have the skills required to improve your experience of ANYONE. It's also important to have the discernment to know who has the keys to the specific experience you're looking for, and the boundaries to facilitate that experience.
When you *become* the experience you want to have, when you live as the haver of that experience lives, some people will leave your life. Paths diverge, and that's ok.