Living open requires exquisite boundaries. First, what are boundaries? Boundaries are many things, but for the sake of this piece, we are...

When I was a child, my mom taught me about the "uh oh" feeling. There's a little voice in you, and when it says "uh oh..." you listen....

Boundaries are about where your attention goes. In our culture there’s an idea that boundaries require defense of those boundaries. There...

Here's a dynamic I have noticed playing out when I come off my center (bearing in mind that coming off-center always puts me back...

Emotional manipulation can only be enacted by someone with the code of emotional manipulation. Emotional manipulation can only be...

You do not need "better boundaries." The most important part about The Boundary Course is that there's no pressure to implement...

One of the myths I debunk in The Boundary Course is that boundaries are rules that others follow in order to deserve relationships with...

People with shitty boundaries* usually have a strong and fearsome inner critic. An inner voice that says "you don't deserve that." A...

People often cite relational misery and conflict as a reason why they need better boundaries. What they're not getting is that misery and...

Enmeshment says that we must feel the same way as those closest to us feel, or we really don't care about them, or we are not even a...

If you have trouble setting boundaries, you might be making even more trouble for yourself by giving excuses. An excuse is the opposite...

Your lack of boundaries is a boundary. Your refusal to set boundaries is a boundary. Your refusal to hold boundaries is a boundary. It's...

You can improve your experience of ANYONE by doing inner work. But you cannot get the exact experience you want from just ANYONE, no...

Men have feelings. Valid ones. Our culture has tried to socialize them out of this, but, man, feelings are durable! Couple that with the...