I wonder if I'll ever stop finding nuanced gifts in the primary wound of death, loss, and grief. Reflecting on losing my parents early, I...

When I say that I follow his leadership, I mean that I don't ask him whether he gave the taxi driver the right address or if he's bought...

It seems like every time I make a post about following and how I mostly follow in my relationship, someone will heroically swoop into the...

The leader is not the only one who can initiate a dance. As a follow, I invite my partner to dance with me. I invite his leadership as a...

The anxious-avoidant dynamic is a failure of compression and stretch. In dance, if your partner leans away, you need to lean away to come...

I was raised to understand that I was a brilliant child. The potential that adults saw in my intelligence led them to offer me many...

You will feel exhausted, depleted, and overworked as an empath or a healer unless you are in relentless agreement with reality. This is...

Part of my "why" for creating Follow School is because I know there are women out there who are exhausted, depleted, desperate for their...

Someone asked me about the difference between following and backseat driving, and I think it's a fun opportunity to swerve over from a...

Holding high standards doesn't make others abide by your standards. It puts rails on what gets your attention, limiting your attention to...

It's cracking me up a bit, the people who are struggling to see beyond their bias about following, asking me about each bit of agency and...

Certain bakers swear by the technique of sifting flour. It's funny because the flour that goes in is the same flour that comes out....

Following depends upon unfollowing. (Every opposite pair depends upon each other, obvi.) Unfollowing is poorly understood, rarely spoken...

Stillness is a vital part of the dance. Movement emerges from stillness. Chaos eventually emerges from movement. Returning to stillness...

Many of my friends have described that their lives have changed as a result of my presence. This usually happens after a period of...

This is the busiest weekend I've had in two years. Busy receiving and having. I can really feel the stretch. If you're like me and would...

When I taught partner dance, I would tell beginner couples that they needed to match pitch and mirror movement. Matching is when you do...

The Power to Hold it Down. There’s plenty of info out there about women surrendering to their partner, to their partnership, to their...

Lately linear time has been slipping out of relevance to me. It had to, it was producing dissonance in my life. Here is one facet of...

I excelled quickly in partner dance because I danced many hours alone. Following the authority of the dance (the music and the steps) is...